When it comes to the controlling of a relationship it could be damaging to a relationship. There are three patterns of this called, rigid complementary, competitive symmetry, and submissive symmetry. For complementary it is when one partner is in control. The competitive part is when two individual compete for top position, and submissive is when both people don’t want control. Even though I find problems with some of these positions I feel that rigid complementary is the most difficult to change. I feel that submissive is also damaging, but the thing about that is neither one of the partners tries to take control. No one is trying to one up each other.
I feel that the rigid complementarity is to most difficult to change. It takes a big person to relinquish power. To give up power and become an equal takes a big person to do. I feel this is damaging to an individual due to the fact the other person might not feel equal.
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In some relationships there is a lot of room for feelings of inadequacy...especially if lines of communication aren't open. When there is a clear dominant person in the relationship, they could always be left guessing if what they bring to the relationship is enough. I agree with you that giving up power is a big step and many aren't capable of doing so! But, it can ultimately set the relationship on a new path, a more successful path.
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